14 Jun EQ v IQ and Mental Health
Is Emotional Intelligence better than IQ?
We have probably all heard, or at least know of the the Gary Vaynerchuk talk about EQ. But how important actually is it?
Growing up, we all had the pressure from our parents or teachers to study Portuguese / English, or math, or do some IQ testing or else you would not be able to find a good career. But times have changed, and research suggests that high performers often also have a high level of emotional intelligence. “Key skills” considered under EQ self-awareness, social skills and self regulation.
In my 2 worlds, business and sport, we always get told not to show or lead with emotion. But my strength comes from my European heritage. Being passionate, fiery, emotional and strong, I realized that trying to hide my emotions was causing me pain for a long time and with that I adopted 3 small steps to help me become a better human and better leader.
Step 1 – Ask people’s opinion.
Some will be scared by the honest feedback, but don’t take it personally, this is the fastest way to increase your self awareness.
Step 2 – Ask questions, a lot of them.
To everyone. Some old business coach I had a while ago always said “P, we have 2 ears and one freaking mouth for a reason. Listen more than you talk”. Ask yourself questions as well, how am I feeling today? Can I do anything to improve myself or anyone around me today?
Step 3 – Check in with your friends.
My goal with this blog is to try and help anyone becoming better and that does lie in EQ and actually taking personal responsibility to improve our self awareness.
If you want to explore the Gary V talk more here’s the link – https://www.garyvaynerchuk.com/depth-look-emotional-intelligence/
Simple question, All good bro? The starting point to make sure they are doing OK and if they aren’t asking questions to help is key.
Fact: 9 Australians die every day by suicide which is more than double the road toll. (Lifeline.org.au)
It’s OK to not be OK, most people have gone through a mental illness at some point in their life. Over 65,000 Australians make a suicide attempt each year. But in 2019 of the 3,318 Australians took their own life, 75% of those are males. It might be difficult to strike up a conversation with someone when you feel like the world is against you.
Most males are brought up in the culture of toxic masculinity. For example, stigma around showing feelings or crying; this can cause emotions and issues to not be appropriately dealt with, and can lead to further issues.
Suicide is generally presented as a mental health issue, yet the majority of male suicides are not linked with a mental health diagnosis. According to the Queensland Suicide Register (QSR), 63.6% of women who take their own lives have at least one psychiatric disorder, less than half of men (44.4%) who die by suicide, have a psychiatric disorder. Some of these men commit suicide due to situational factors these include
- Relationship Separation (28.3%)
- Financial Problems (17%)
- Relationship Conflict (15.7%)
- Bereavement (12.3%)
- Recent or pending unemployment (10.5%)
If you or somebody you know is going through mental illness, or have thoughts upon self-harm, speak to them or ask for help there is a 24/7 Crisis Support hotline 13 11 14 (Lifeline). No judgement, friendly and willing to help you on the other side at any time. However, if life is in danger dial 000.
What can we do to help men’s health?
Men’s health is a bit of a grey topic for a lot of men. Mental illness isn’t always spoken about and a lot of men feel that speaking up goes against what it means to be a man. This couldn’t be further from the truth. So let’s speak up on the topic and give you some suggestions and ideas on how we can help men’s health!
Openly asking your mates or male friends how they are doing. Having an open and honest conversation about any issues or things that might be going on. Sometimes just asking the question is enough to make an impact or create the space for the conversation.
Be enthusiastic and supportive of the role males play in society. There are a lot of great males that play an important role in people’s lives, a father, brother, boyfriend, husband. There people should be shown their value to the people around them. It’s always a great help to feel included and that you matter to the loved ones around you.
Learning about men’s health and possible mental health is a great way to also build some understanding of the positions males typically find themselves in. If you can help build your understanding of these situations or events you’ll have a better time supporting or helping your loved ones through the times they may be facing. This awareness can go a long way.
Remember mental health is a topic we should embrace and openly talk about. Let’s support our fellow males and help build a better environment for the youth to grow up in. If we can help build these understandings and ways to help it will lead to less mental health and a better society of people. Let’s ask today how we can better help improve men’s health!